It is not Rocket Science

So how can we make this work?

We mentioned that having limiting beliefs are what usually hold people back. You could call it the missing piece to the secret of life. There are many self help gurus, many psychological techniques and other means to letting go of limiting beliefs. I am going to share with you one that has worked for me.

These 7 easy questions are all it takes, but it takes all you got. No rocket science here, but it will take a considerable amount of effort to get it working for you. Think of it like peeling away at an onion layer by layer. Usually when one limiting belief is removed, another is found in its place. Just keep at it, Rome wasn’t built in a day and your mind cannot be free in just one attempt.

1. What do I believe?
2. Do I really believe that?
3. Why do I believe that?
4. What do I fear about my belief not being true?
5. Why do I fear that?
6. Is it true?
7. How can I apply this to my life?

To give you an example of how I went through this process;

1. I believe that I will never fall in love.
2. Yes.
3. I built up a wall around my feelings, letting no one in after I got my heart broken.
4. I fear that if I fall in love it will open me up to being hurt again.
5. The pain the first time was unbearable; I do not want to let it happen again.
6. Yes it did hurt but to fall in love again does not mean I will get hurt again.
7. I can either go through the rest of my life alone, or I can start to embrace the relationships I have in my life around me.

I did have a few tangents that came from this train of thought. It led me to find a great affirmation that I now use on a daily basis.

“At any given time I can connect with someone on a deep and meaningful soul level.”

Now that sounds like an enabling belief. Go ahead, give it a try. You can laugh at yourself later, but trust me that this will work if you let it. If you have any other ways of releasing I would love to hear about it.

What is Holding Me Back?

We trust in it, most of us, whenever we seat ourselves and our loved ones in a car and head down the highway. We know it is there, that it has been tested and fitted to best suit our highest degree of safety. Even that all familiar ‘click’ lets us know everything is in place. But why do strap ourselves into a four thousand pound moving piece of steel or fiberglass?

Because we were told to do so?

For some, maybe, but for others…

Belief.

We believe it is going to save us.

Now this is not to bash seat belts, I do mine up every time, but it does help illustrate the point. Really it comes down to belief in the harness that it will work; belief in the manufacture, belief in the safety studies, belief in the design, belief that it won’t fail this one time, etc. These beliefs hold us back in times of strife and I am thankful that they do so. But when applied to the science of the mind, something that works better when it is free, it is just the opposite.

“The mind is like a parachute. It works best when it is open.”
-Sir Thomas Robert Dewar

The question to ask now is...

“What are my beliefs?”

And to take it one step further…

“What are my limiting beliefs?”

Another word for limiting beliefs is an excuse. Last post we discussed the idea that if you don’t have what you focus your intention on it may be due to a belief that you do not actually want it. Underlying this motive could be the belief that you are not able to get it. Instead of working those extra hours to save up for your dream car it is easier to say...

“Ah, I didn’t want it anyways. I am perfectly happy with my mini van.”

In fact I would stress to take it even further than that and say that almost all beliefs present in any given belief system are limiting. How many times have you heard that only smart or good looking people get what they want? It comes so easily to the naturally gifted maybe? Sure talent and ability are key factors in accomplishing any goal, but without belief it is just a fancy wrapping to an empty gift box.

If you have ever seen the movie Rudy played by Sean Astin you would have a perfect example of what I am saying here.

So take the time, find out what excuses are present in life and let them go. Undo the seat belt to your mind. Instead of describing why it can’t start figuring out how it can. These dreams we have are way too good to be passed by.

Why not?